Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Meet My Blind Neighbour


Every morning I wake up to the fragrance of flowers that seep through my windows from the well tendered flowered garden of my neighbour. Like a perfect patch of colours on a wooden palette, they are beautifully arranged like a bridal bouquet. Before the sun steps out from the east, I watch these little things like feathers swerve in every direction. I guess that’s how I receive my daily portion. I pray alongside, hoping someday I will see the beautiful tender hands that nurture the garden.

But not only has the flowers amazed me every morning, the gentle arms of a stranger feeling flowers from garden to garden leaves me pondering for many hours. The stranger had left me a note one day, asking for my permission to smell the flowers in my garden and feel them for just a few minutes.

One of such mornings I had asked from my windows, “What is special about my garden flowers?” To me, they were mere dying, uninviting flowers and with no peculiar smell. She returned my question with a smile and said, At least, they are beautiful than the ones in my garden. Pointing towards the direction of a plant in my garden, she added, “Can’t you smell the fragrance? It is pretty amazing plant!”

That morning, I watched her move from garden to garden. I suspected she had written all the neighbours of her morning flower adventures. Everyone within vicinity seems to love her around their gardens. At least I could count a couple of neighbours saying hello and bidding good morning while others chatted her up.
Something was peculiar about this strange young woman. She was an epitome of beauty with bold beautiful frame. She had a smile, so unending like the flowers in my neighbour’s garden, never running dry like a stream. If I could borrow a line from the movie “diary of a black mad woman”, her smiles made my world complete.

It’s being three months I have been doing this daily watch but today came with a difference.
I woke up to the noise of digging in the garden and not to a fragrance. Someone was pulling the flowers in my neighbour’s garden with anger. The fellow must be pretty mad this morning, I thought. How could she? I jumped out of my room with pyjamas and ran hurriedly to her. Everyone was quite amazed and standing from afar to watch the scenario. Those flowers meant the whole world to me, I said. Storming on the woman, I shouted, “Are you running out of your mind”. Who gave you right to take out flowers from this garden? Out of frustration, I shouted more at her and asking, “If this was her plan on everyone’s garden”.

“They are mine, I own them and I was keeping them until last night”, she replied. I felt ashamed but still angry within. It wasn't long that I realized it was the pretty stranger. This reality made me angrier and it wasn't long before I started struggling to get the shovels from her hand. She started crying, and mumbling words that I could hardly understand.

Why did you destroy these pretty flowers? Can’t you see? Are you blind? Can’t you see they are beautiful and make this neighborhood glitter? Answer me. Are you blind? I shouted the more. The reality that I could be sued for harassing my neighbour who was the owner of the well tended garden started seeping in like water through the rock.
After a few minutes, she slowly responded pleading for me to return her walking stick and shovel. “Please, I am blind.” I returned her walking stick thinking she was mocking me. How come my flowers don’t smell good? How come I can’t have what everyone has? Why are my flowers long and thin? She added.
I was shocked by these words. Of a truth, she was blind. Without the walking stick, you can hardly tell she was blind for she looked all complete. 

First the strange woman was my neighbor. She was blind and never realized the true beauty of what she had. Her flower made the environment boom. She could smell the fragrance from my garden, but she could not see the beauty in hers. I took her arms to the nearly uprooted removed flowers and told her to feel them.

You garden is the most beautiful of all in this neighborhood  We are all tending our plants to be like yours. It so sad you never knew. You never tendered these flowers but they are a true reflection of your beauty. I have been longing to meet the tender arms that nurture the garden. I never knew you lived in the neighborhood. I quickly added that I was sorry. "I am sorry for shouting at you", I said out loudly. 
It seems that my words brought light to her soul. She started to cry softly.

I realized from that point onward that our mind is like a well tendered garden containing beautiful flowers on every side. My Blind Neighbour on the other hand is that part of me that lives so close to me, that phase of my life that’s dark and unknown. Some people call it potential and it seems that she is asleep always but if she could wake up to the true essence of herself, she holds the beauty in her world. How could she think the neighbor's flowers were better than hers? She could hardly see a thing. That is perception. It makes us blind to the other. Like my blind neighbour, we are often times lost within the walls of mediocrity, feeling we are in-sufficient. We see nothing. Feel nothing good of ourselves. We think we are nobody and that we are completely lost and missing in our own world. We have completely forgotten that we are epitome of God’s beauty. We hide beneath the walls of the past; secretly dreaming of the future, hoping no one catches us. Like hidden faces, we are only a mirror of ourselves, empty soul beneath the mast of unaware beauty.

Possibly I am also blind to my own world. May be it’s time for me to begin to see the true beauty of the flowers in my garden for out of it comes the issues of life. Meet my blind Neighbour: The inner part of Me "My Mind". Tend your mind like a garden and open your eyes to see the beauty of God's creation.

Oluwamitomisin

Also read: The Dusty Labour

Sunday, January 16, 2011

Our Deepest Fears

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Marianne Williamson

2011 says Thank You


A big “Thank You” to everyone, for the huge impact you had in my life in 2010.

Thank you for the support, care, kindness, favours, criticism, attention and ultimately your love. 
I can't recount calls, texts, and cards from friends. Without you, I’m sure that 2010 would have been extremely difficult.

The year 2010 was a great year
Love made— love broken
Friendship made—friendship broken
Magical moments, memorable laugh

From my side I wish you all a magical New Year filled with loving wishes and beautiful thoughts.
May 2011 mark the beginning of a tidal wave of love, happiness, blessings and bright futures.


Those who need someone special, May you find true love……
Those who need money, May your finances overflow……
Those who need care, May you find a good heart….
Those who need friends, May you meet lovely people
Those who need life, May you find GOD.

I wish you all a very Blessed and Prosperous 2011 with all love

Oluwamitomisin

Related Post: A tribute to my Mum

Black & White in a Grey World

I picked up my pencil, sharpened it and began writing a few lines.

It’s been months—my mind felt like a moving train. But still was the hand that held the pencil. Could it be the stillness of the night?

As frozen, as these hands felt, my mind moved like the great river. Words gushed into my hands like a broken pipe. I hoped my hands could catch up with the frequency of my thought. Peradventure it was a matter of survival.

Pondering through thoughts, flashing with memories
Counting the losses and gains, unlocking the bolt to giant doors
Finding the last piece to the puzzles, sorting answers to the mystery of life
In the midst of the grey world, I could still manage to see life in black and white.

I have only scratched the surface.
They looked like mere visions; unshakeable, unbeatable
It’s in the midst of this grey world, that all my skies are painted brightly
My womb leaps in joy again.
Here I find my tired limbs regain strength
My lips chap with smile and my numb hands gushing with blood.
In the chrism of the dew and cool of the dawn, I found a fresh start
I have found reasons to see black and white in a grey world.

Oluwamitomisin

Others also read: The Dusty Labour

The Dusty Labour


Who would wipe these tears off her face? She sits in a lonely place darkened by the fears that locks her mind, twisted in the memories of broken promises, wandering why the world has taken a turn. The world await a precious gold but it appears she is buried within the earth of deception. It awaits precious fine white linen but she can hardly be found.

Who would restore this lost hope?
She locks her fingers in her tiny braids, pulling each strand with a rhythm, tapping her feet on the floor, wishing the world would halt at her feet. Beneath her cold veins is the hope for many but she seems to be fainting like a dying soul. A generation lies in her womb but she appears to have no strength to birth them out.

Who can deliver her thought from destruction? Eyes twitching in every direction, like moments stolen by photo shots, you can feel pain flicking like magic wind. Every thought against the other, which is she supposed to uphold? Day by day, months by months, years by years, she's being deceived. Friends deceiving, promises broken, relationship unsatisfying, weary, tired, beaten, wrecked, broken, words cannot describe how she feels. 

Who can withhold her hands from shivering? This night, she looked at herself in the mirror of her past
Once, she felt unbreakable, unstoppable. Now she feels like her own shadows. Asking herself the little bit that seems left. Somewhere, someplace, the answers to my unending questions lies but it’s uncertain she would ever have answers to the traitors, liars and foes like friends.

Shaking herself from the dust, she rose up. Gathers strength to stand in between the two walls that have enclosed her dreams. The walls of impossibility and mediocrity. She gathers courage to dress herself in the garment of splendor, takes a sit for she cannot die in this hopelessness and deception. 

“Rub the fears of my face, rinse me from the drunkenness of sorrow, free me from the chains around my neck, she shout aloud. A song is about to be heard. A child is about to be born. 
You can see it in the flame of her eyes. You can read it in her thought. 
With both feet pressed against the floor, she groans in pain. 
Each hand against the wall in the darkness, she pushed, pushed and pushed.
And at the peak of time, she birth the child of her dreams


Birth your dreams. 

God has placed the ability to reach your most feared destination.

Oluwamitomisin